Christmas Cards

Can you believe anyone would be offended by getting a Christmas card?It is true! Crystal Powers, someone we use to know, wrote us a nasty email telling us she wanted nothing to do with us anymore, after receiving our Christmas card. It was a simple card wishing her a Merry Christmas.We couldn't believe someone would be such a "Grinch" or "Scrooge" at Christmas time. We have been estranged (not by our choice, but hers) for a while now. She didn't like our blog because she was not mentioned in the first post. She blames Rudy for every wrong thing that happened in her life. You see, her mother left Crystal's father and took the children off to Montana and wouldn't let their father see them. The mother told the children all sorts of stories (lies) to her daughters about how terrible their father was. When he sent money or presents, the mother told them it was from her. The girls learned to hate their dad. Even when he tried to get in touch with them, the mother wouldn't have it. Crystal has been carrying a big block on her shoulder for many years after hearing all of this hatred. A few years ago she decided to get married and ask Rudy to walk her down the aisle. So we went to Montana, very happy I might add, to be part of her life. It has been such a roller coaster ride since then. It seems if we don't do what Crystal expects us to she gets mad and wants nothing to do with us. We kept trying to get to know her better and Rudy even apologized for all the wrongs he had done. He told her his side of the story (because there are two sides to every story) but she didn't like his version. Well, we just kept trying until finally it began to be to hard to hear all of the negative crap she would spew about her dad. Yes, Rudy sadly is her father. I, being not as patient as Rudy, wrote off a email and told her to grow up and put all the bad stuff behind her and give her father a chance to be in her life. Because I think she would see what a wonderful man her father is, if she would just let him in, I told her to stop being such a brat! Now after getting our Christmas card she wrote back and said she wants nothing to do with us ever again. So, sadly we are going to comply with her wishes. After so many years of trying to be a father and friend to her, we cannot take it anymore. It hurts to bad. We have taken her off our Christmas card list, our email list and every other list we have. It saddens our hearts but what can you do. She has two wonderful little boys (Rudy's grandchildren) that she will be depriving them of the best grandfather that could be. And she is depriving herself of a father who loves her so much and wants nothing but the best for her. I just wanted to be her friend, never would I take over being her mother. I too, love her with all my heart and wish her well. I love those little boys and know how much Rudy loves them. It hurts our hearts that we cannot see them grow and mature and give them all of our love. I hurt for Rudy most of all, because he has tried so hard. I know he thinks about her every day and we pray for both of his daughters. Someday I hope she realizes what she is missing and decides differently. But, for now she is someone we tried to get to know, once upon a time.

Thankfully, we have many friends around us. We love you like we would our own. There are so many of you who love us for who we are and accept our faults. I hope you all know what that means to us. We have so much love to give. It is so nice that you all (and you know who you are...everyone) loves us back unconditionally. Thank you for sharing your children with us. We are proud to be called Grandpa or grandma or just plain Carol and Rudy. They mean more to us than you will know. Thanks again to all of our dear "family".